Every red-blooded boy dreams of growing up and marrying an attractive woman. As we grow into red-blooded men, those dreams don't change much. For some of us our goals regarding marriage itself evolve (or in my case, disappear), but the broader dream of snagging the most attractive women on the market stays intact for just about every guy.
The draws of an attractive woman are many. By simple human nature and evolutionary biology, our eyes are drawn to them first. For most of us, being intimate with an attractive woman triggers a much more intense sexual arousal, everything else being equal. Lastly, and perhaps most importantly of all, having one on your arm is a surefire way to launch your social standing into the stratosphere. Everyone looks up to the guy who is cracking a dime-piece.
But are guys who achieve our universal boyhood dream of tying the knot with the hottest girl in the room sacrificing a lifetime of happiness for occasional physical pleasure and bragging rights?
Back in college when I would bed an 8 or a 9 (the elusive 10's usually managed to slip from my grasp), I would encourage them to stay long enough to have breakfast in the morning. Sometimes I downright begged. Ostensibly I was just being a gentleman, but in reality I wanted to make sure my roommates got a look at what was naked in my bed the night before.
My less attractive attainments, I'm almost ashamed to say now, were ushered out the door before anyone else in the apartment was awake.basically the women in my past that caused the most drama in my life were also the ones that most fit into societies vision of the perfect LOOKING women but I still foolishly chased them..
With my late 40's just around the corner, most of the guys I spent the last decade chasing dimes with are becoming real adults. Every other entry in my Facebook news feed is either a picture of an engagement ring or an ultrasound. While I have no desire to join their ranks, this shift in social dynamic has inspired me to look back through the women in my past (the ones I can remember, at least) and think about what I would look for were I ever to get into the whole "monogamy" thing.
What I found was eye-opening. There is pretty much a straight-line inverse relationship between how physically attractive my former flames were and how good of a mate I think they would make.
I'll go a step further and say I'd rather go snorkeling at a sewage treatment plant than spend the rest of my life with any of the eye-candy of my past.
The reasons why less attractive (by the medias standards) women make better life partners haven't been difficult for me to wrap my brain around. Hot women know we feel lucky to be with them, and they act accordingly. Most of the ones I've known have acted like I should feel privileged to wait on them hand and foot. They want to call the shots all the time because in their minds, I'm lucky just to have them around. Why wouldn't you be thrilled to skip poker night and go watch "The Vow" with me? Can't you see how hot I am?!? Guys always feel honored to be in my presence, even if it's watching a terrible movie based on a terrible book by a terrible author! What's wrong with you?
That's the other problem with the hottest ones. If you won't put up with their crap, there are a million other guys who will, and they know that. Not only do they know it, they let YOU know it every chance they get.
With less attractive women, the roles are reversed. If you're a decent looking guy, well-educated, in shape, with good conversational skills and at least an average sized tool, they feel like they've died and gone to heaven when they earn your attention. Their life mission becomes to please you and keep you around. The less attractive the girls I've been with were, the more like a king they treated me.
There was one I had a fling with in the summer of 2008 who had a somewhat cute face but about 40 extra pounds on her. She would come over and clean for me at least twice a week, though I never asked once. The only thing she wanted in return? For ME to let HER give me oral sex. You think you could get that kind of arrangement from Megan Fox? I'm not saying I would use women like that, I'm just saying people work harder when they feel they have less to offer. must like a poor man with a crappy job will fix stuff around your house, watch your kids when you have an appointment and eat pussy like its sugar coated while a rich guy feels your lucky to be with him.